AMBITION: Pharell said ‘’ I am ambitious because I realize it can be done’’ Women love and respect men who have big dreams and take daily steps that can lead to their accomplishment. Women want to be lead, or taken on a journey by a man who wants more from life and a man who inspires them to demand more from their potential. You might not have the fancy cars and cribs yet but if you’re ambitious enough and you declare your ambition to her in humility and love the world will make a place for you.
BE IN THE ‘NOW’: This is sort of contradicting my first point you’ll say! But no it simply compliments it. You see, the past you cannot bring back and the future you have not manifested all you have is ‘NOW’ so when you’re with your: wife, fiancé, girlfriend, and even kids BE PRESENT in the moment for your presence is more precious to them than your presents. When you’re with your woman discipline your mind not to travel to work, enjoy the MOMENT.
GODLY: Women are attracted to men who fear God in action and in words. She’ll feel safe and whole around you in a world where women are battered, abused, raped, and mistreated.
MENTAL TOUGHNESS: Hmmmm women like to say to their friends ‘’My guy is smart.’’ Be a life long learner. Be her teacher and life coach because of your wealth of knowledge.
LOOKS: With technology and great products in the 21st century everybody can ‘MAKE’ themselves attractive. Work on your looks and raise your attractiveness to the opposite sex. As a married man, don’t rest on your laurel let your wife still look at the way you dress, look, and talk and go like ‘’Hmmm girls I got a mehn’’ Arrest her attention by your style and swag.
BE FUN TO BE WITH: Have fun with your life. Don’t be too serious take her to the movies, dance to your favorite songs together, make her laugh, and of course surprise her sometimes.
I heard a story about a father who was preparing a sermon to deliver on a Sunday morning. His little son kept barging into his office incessantly to get his fatherly attention, well to occupy the young lad, his father gave him a torn piece of paper with the map of the world to put together, thinking that the activity will occupy his time.
To the surprise of his father he returned to his fathers study pretty quickly with the torn piece of paper put together beautifully. The father in amazement asked his son ‘’Son how did you did that so quickly.’’ The son answered ‘’Hmmm dad it was easy, you see, I noticed the picture of a man at the back of the paper and when I put the man together I put his world together.’’
To put a man together I believe there are certain skills and competencies he must master:
SPIRITUAL MASTERY: Every man must know His maker or Source and develop an on going spiritual relationship with his Creator because ultimately a man is the spiritual covering of his home.
RELATIONSHIP MASTERY: Every man will need people to advance and accelerate his career, business, and dreams in life. The more quality people you know as a man the better your life will become. Due to the mimicking neuron in your brain, you tend to copy and do what you see around you. Intentionally build relationships with people that can inspire and motivate you.
KNOWLEDGE MASTERY: Today as a man you live in a super-competitive world, so if you don’t upgrade your knowledge in your chosen field your competitors will eat your lunch. Read books, attend seminars, and make your car an audio university.
MONEY MASTERY: Money problems can affect your potential negatively. So manage your money well, reduce debt, have multiple streams of income, save a lot, and give a lot for givers never lack.
LOVE MASTERY: A man must develop the competence to show love to his children daily for you are their hero and you are the first example of manhood that your sons and daughters will observe. Next stop his love your wife, fiancé, or girlfriend. Don’t cheat on them and if you have in the past forgive your self and never go back there again. LET GO OF THE SIDE CHICK
PHYSICAL FITNESS MASTERY: Without your physical body you cannot exist on this earth. Hit the gym, go for a run, do some yoga, just move your body regularly for physical exercise can increase your energy, eliminate fat, and increase your sex drive.
IMAGE MASTERY: Always look the part, for as a man you are seen before you are heard. Never dress in a shabby or tacky way, get a proper hair cut, wear a nice cologne and watch peoples response towards you improve.
MENTORSHIP MASTERY: I believe that every man should have mentors in significant areas of their lives. Mentors are generally people who are doing better than you in: business, marriage, career, health, etc. When you have a good mentor you’ll save yourself from making stupid mistakes in life.
In 1976 Steven Sasson showed his superiors at Kodak a new device he had invented called the DIGITAL CAMERA they didn’t take him seriously thirty years later Kodak is insolvent.
In business if you don’t disrupt yourself somebody else will do it for you.
Today the digital camera and smart phones have disrupted the film-based business model of Kodak
There is no unassailable ‘moat’ around any business anymore. Look at landline telephone in Nigeria it was disrupted by mobile and now the SMS that mobile companies make money from is being disrupted by direct messaging like facebook DM, Twitter DM and Whatsapp.
Peter Diamandis founder of singularity university put it this way ” Disruption means stop doing it in a way you’ve always been doing it and start doing it in a way that is significantly different am not talking 10% better but 10 times better”
Come up with better and bolder ideas on how to sell your: Self, products, ideas, and services in this super-competitive world.
Solomon is my favorite King in the old testament. I have read his book, THE BOOK OF PROVERBS several times and here are some of his sayings that have inspired me i hope you find comfort and wisdom from them as i did.
”A LONGING FULFILLED IS SWEET TO THE SOUL”
”HE WHO GUARDS HIS LIPS GUARDS HIS SOUL”
”FROM THE FRUIT OF HIS LIPS A MAN IS FILLED WITH GOOD THINGS”
”A HEART AT PEACE GIVES LIFE TO THE BODY”
”A GIFT OPENS THE WAY FOR THE GIVER AND USHERS HIM INTO THE PRESENCE OF THE GREAT”
”IF A MAN PAYS BACK EVIL FOR GOOD, EVIL WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS HOUSE”
”A CHEERFUL HEART IS GOOD MEDICINE”
”DO YOU SEE A MAN SKILLED IN HIS WORK? HE WILL STAND BEFORE KINGS AND HE WILL NOT SERVE OBSCURE MEN”
”IF YOUR ENEMY IS HUNGRY, GIVE HIM FOOD TO EAT. IN DOING SO YOU WILL HEAP BURNING COALS ON HIS HEAD, AND THE LORD WILL REWARD YOU”
”LIKE A CITY WHOSE WALLS ARE BROKEN DOWN SO IS A MAN WHO LACKS SELF-CONTROL”
In the 21st century world you will be faced with situations and circumstances that will require you to sell or inform people about: yourself, ideas, products or services.
That will require you to speak to a group of people or an individual, the better you are at speaking the more people and resources you’ll attract to support your cause, company, team or whatever you’re trying to build.
So, to help you speak well in public here are my seven important tips.
YOUR RATE OF TALKING: Some people in the bid to get over their material or what they have to say speak very fast so that they can quickly get off the stage and sit in the audience where the spotlight is not on them. If you speak too fast you’re audience won’t understand what you’re saying and if you speak too slow your audience will be bored, so the key there is to balance what you’re doing.
THE PAUSE: Great public speakers know when to pause for a second or two to let their message sink into the soul of their listeners during their talks. To learn more about the beauty and power of a pause in a speech head to youtube.com , (youtube is owned by google.com) and search for 2023 PROMETHEUS movie thriller Peter Weyland did an amazing job there.
BODY SPEAKS: Your body is a speaking tool, while speaking in front of an audience your mouth is not the only organ doing the talking, your body is talking far more than your mouth. Communication expert Dr. Albert Mehrabian said, that in communication 55% is body language, 38% is tone of voice and 7% is words. The idea am trying to get across to you is to ensure that your words and body language are congruent during your talk for example, if you’re talking about joy let it show in your voice, facial expression, and body language.
LOOK AT ME: Look at a few people in the eye when you’re speaking to an audience this makes you effective, engaging, human, and seductive.
DO THE DARK WORK: A wise boxer said, ‘’FOR YOU TO SHINE IN THE SPOTLIGHT, YOU MUST SWEAT IN THE DARK’’ The idea here is- PRACTICE. Practice your speech again and again in front of a mirror or a mock audience. This will sharpen your skill and raise your self confidence on the day of your speech. ‘’He who sweats in practice, bleeds less in war’’ Spartan.
LOOK THE PART: Look the part during your speech, don’t under-dress for your audience you never know who might be in the audience.
BENCHMARK: Study, observe, and follow great speakers to raise your presentation skill level.
Segun Abiona left a successful job and career in BARCLAYS BANK UK, relocated to Nigeria without any promise of success or light at the end of the tunnel to start Nigeria’s and West Africa’s biggest and most successful socks making brand NICOLE & GIOVANNI. Click the link below and hear his story for inspiration and courage to pursue your own dreams.
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They say you never get a second chance to make a great first impression. One of the fashion items that can send a positive message about your brand and what you stand for are your shoes.
If they look cheap, people will have a ‘cheap’ perception about you.
If your shoes look dirty and untidy, they’ll wonder what else is it that you leave unkept in your life and business.
According to Angel Ramos CEO, ANGEL I BESPOKE ”An amazing pair of shoes will make an average suit look good. However a crappy pair of shoes can destroy an artisan bespoke garment no matter how beautiful.”
To help you pick the right pair, here are some classic shoes for every gentleman that you’ll never regret owning.